Series: Aura Essentials | Topic: Community Building
Community building among women is more critical than ever, but it comes with its unique set of challenges. The idea of sisterhood—where women uplift and support one another—sounds ideal. Yet, the reality is often far more complex, marked by competition, jealousy, and even betrayal. Many women struggle with feeling alone, even when surrounded by those they’ve known for years.
Why Sisterhood Matters More Than Ever
At Inher Aura, we believe women are strongest when they come together. Our brand name is more than just a catchy phrase—it reflects the collective power of women uniting with intention. When women stand together in community, we foster a shared space of mindfulness, confidence, and empowerment. But what happens when the people closest to us are not aligned with this vision?
The truth is, toxic relationships can easily infiltrate our circles. Whether it's a competitive colleague, a jealous friend, or a partner who undermines your success, these relationships can be emotionally draining. Often, we cling to those we've always known, believing that loyalty demands we stay connected to people who no longer serve our growth.
The Trap of "Day One" Friends
It’s tempting to think that long-standing relationships—our so-called “day one” friends—deserve permanent places in our lives. However, just because someone has been around doesn't mean they contribute positively to your future. These individuals may keep you anchored to an outdated version of yourself, hindering your personal development.
Community building isn’t about proximity or history; it’s about curating a circle that aligns with your values and growth. Curate a circle of women who support your dreams, challenge you when necessary, and genuinely celebrate your wins. Sometimes, this means making tough decisions to distance yourself from those who no longer align with your growth.
Real Talk: Women vs. Women
Let’s be real—society often pits women against each other. Media and societal norms fuel narratives of competition, jealousy, and infidelity, which can erode trust between women. You may have experienced betrayal, or had a fake friend who pretended to support you. It’s painful to realize someone close feels threatened by your progress.
Here’s a hard truth: You must be intentional in curating who is in your aura, ensuring they contribute to your empowerment and growth. Surround yourself with people who uplift you, not those who downplay your success out of insecurity.
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Be Intentional About Your Inner Circle: Don’t just rely on those who’ve always been there. Handpick people who resonate with your purpose and energy. Do they genuinely root for your success, or are they quietly hoping for your failure?
Seek Out Women Who Inspire You: Surround yourself with women who embody qualities you admire, whether it's strength, ambition, or kindness. Seek out relationships that challenge you to grow and reflect your highest self.
Establish Boundaries: Healthy relationships require clear boundaries. If someone drains your energy or disrespects your space, it’s essential to step back. Boundaries are not a sign of selfishness; they are an act of self-care.
Engage in Collective Growth: True sisterhood is about collective success. Participate in community activities, join women’s support groups, and build networks that focus on elevating everyone in the circle. There’s no room for competition when we’re all working toward growth.
A Final Thought
As women, we have the power to create nurturing, empowering spaces. Building these communities requires intentionality and discernment. It’s no longer enough to rely on those who’ve always been around. The people in your aura should reflect the person you’re becoming, not the one you’ve outgrown.
So, ask yourself: Who’s really in my aura? Are they pushing me toward growth, or keeping me stagnant?
Your Turn:
Share your thoughts and experiences below—let’s start a real conversation about curating our own sisterhoods.
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